A Guide to Safe Temperature Play

A Guide to Safe Temperature Play

Playing with ice and fire is more fun than you might think. However, it takes a lot of research, patience, and care. These games can get quite dangerous sometimes, and nobody likes getting hurt. Let us teach you about temperature play, so you don’t have to keep eating melted chocolate off your partner’s body forever.

Temperature Play Defined

Welcome to the wondrous world of BDSM. We have all kinds of things here, and one of them is temperature play. If you’re not familiar with this type of play already, we’re here to tell you all about it. Surely, you’ve seen it in movies or porn, or some of your friends gave you a sex tip involving an ice cube. If that sounds familiar, it means you’re already introduced to some aspects of temperature play.

You know how a lot of people have positive reactions to touching certain fabrics, smelling particular scents, or hearing various sounds? Well, this kind of play is all about feeling. You can say that temperature play is a form of BDSM sensual play. The goal is to stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors for heat and cold — all so that you could experience some kind of arousal.

Arousal is a given. However, the point of these plays is to be sensual. There are many things you can do for a successful play. Plus, you can also use toys to aid you, like glass dildos, for example. The world of temperature play is bound to give you chills.

Starting Off Small

Before deciding which toys you should use for these plays, we suggest you take a step back. Every time you try something new, you should start from the beginning. In this case, sex toys are at the end of the yellow brick road. So what can you do instead? Plenty of things!

First and foremost, lubrication is your friend. Did you know there are lubricants with heating and cooling effects? Now that you know this, put them to the test! They will be a great introduction to temperature play. Once you’re familiar with that kind of lube, you can move onto ice cubes. Not only can you trace them along your partner’s erogenous zones, but you can also put one in your mouth for the blowjob of your partner’s wildest dreams.

Body-safe candles are next! Once you’ve cooled down, it’s time to turn the heat up, and what better way to do that than with candles.

Cold Play

There are multiple ways in which you can make your partner shiver. When it comes to cold play, there are so many things you can do. Toys aren’t necessary if you’re on a budget. Instead, you can just use things you can find around the house. Yes, even creams with cooling effects can help you, but you have to be extra careful when using them.

So let’s talk about some ways in which you can get excitingly cold:

    • Use ice cubes — This option comes first because everyone reaches for ice cubes first. Plus, you have to have them somewhere in your house. Ice cubes are quite versatile when it comes to temperature play. You can even put them in a bowl and play with them. Tease your partner’s genital area to spice things up.
    • Don’t forget ice cream — Who doesn’t love delicious ice cream? Do you know what’s even better? Popsicles! Not only can you eat them, but they’re great for giving your partner the chills. 
  • Hop into a cold shower
  • Glass sex toys — These toys from lovegasm are incredibly easy to cool down. Simply pop them in the fridge for a bit before playing with them, and you’ll soon be in for a lot of fun.
  • Go outside — Feeling the rush of sensations is best when you get a little cold. Simply go outside and then back in if the weather allows it. Your senses will definitely be heightened.

Heat Play

Now that we’re done being cold, it’s time to warm up. Thankfully, a lot of things you do for cold plays, you can also apply in heat plays — except for the ice cubes, of course. Playing with heat can be just as dangerous because it’s just as easy to burn yourself as it is to get frostbitten. Being careful should always be imperative.

So now that you’re ready to turn the heat up, let’s give consider some examples:

  • Light a candle — Playing with body-safe candle wax is one of the best ways to introduce yourself to heat play. As with anything else, you have to do your research. It might seem like child’s play, but wax can cause burns quite easily.
  • Heating lube — Just like some lubes have cooling effects, others have heating powers. We recommend spot testing before actually trying it. Some people could have bad reactions to them. When used safely, they’re a lot of fun.
  • Time for chocolate — Chocolate is a powerful aphrodisiac. That’s especially true when it’s melted and starts pouring. It’s a great vanilla way of getting into temperature play.
  • Glass sex toys, yet again – Glass toys are perfect for temperature play exactly because glass is great at changing temperature. Simply leave it in warm water for a while, and it’s good to go.
  • Massage oils — Ever notice you’re getting hot during your massage? Some massage oils are designed to heat up once you start working them in, making them a great addition to your plays.

Think About Safety All the Time

No matter what kind of play you’re into, safety should always come first. Most importantly, never dive into anything new without prior research. It’s all too easy to get carried away thinking you know what you’re doing. Sure, you’ve seen Fifty Shades of Gray, and now you’re the BDSM expert. It doesn’t quite work like that.

When it comes to temperature play, monitoring your partner carefully is key. The chances of injury are more than real. So not only should you expose them to temperature changes for moments at a time, but you should also keep a close eye on them afterward. 

Once you ensure that your partner is all good, you can move on to the real thing. Still, let’s list some things to keep an eye on:

  • Any pain or discomfort is bad, and you should stop immediately
  • Cold dulls reactions to pain, so be extra careful
  • Do thorough research when playing with ice and fire (literally!)
  • Never forget aftercare!


Enjoying temperature play might not be for vanilla couples, but you can still try things out. The most important thing to remember is that safety comes above everything. If something goes wrong, your best bet is to stop. Do your research first, and everything should go smoothly.